2 Samuel 13:3  Now Amnon had an adviser named Jonadab son of Shimeah, David’s brother. Jonadab was a very shrewd man. (NIV)

Matthew‬ ‭10‬:‭16‬  ‭Jesus said, “Look, I’m sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as serpents and as innocent as doves.” (‭‭CSB‬‬)

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Jonadab was missing half of Jesus’ self-leadership equation. 

To be as shrewd as a serpent, according to one definition, is to be practical, alert, and aware of possible dangers. To be as harmless as a dove is to maintain integrity, to live a non-confrontational life, and to be innocent, pure, and loving. 

If Jonadab had embraced the “harmless as a dove” aspect that Jesus talked about all those years later, a whole lot of evil could have been avoided. 

Beware of any confidante or advisor who is first and foremost shrewd. Cunning friends may provide a sneaky treat now and again, but in the long run, they may get you tossed out on your seat. 

Our character rises or falls according to who we relate to most closely. 

Self-leadership includes mastering the fine art of the stiff arm. There are some people like Jonadab who always want to stay close enough to whisper in our ears. The better part of wisdom is to keep them at arm’s length. At the same time, there are those we need to lean into so that we can hear them clearly. Knowing the difference has an outsize impact on our destinies. 

Know when to push, and know when to pull. 

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I will cultivate relationships with practical and peaceful friends. 

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Our Father, thank you for surrounding me with people who are truly wise and have no malice in their hearts. Please deliver me from those cunning souls who always seek an edge against others. Amen.